3 Sex Positions to Try Right Now

Many of us living with Endometriosis know that having sex is very painful. Most of the time, we try to put it off by telling our spouses that we aren’t in the mood or that we’re tired.

The truth is, and this may come as a shock to some, we are in the mood.

We also know that as much as we’re going to enjoy the feeling of foreplay, oral sex, and the actual orgasm itself, penetration is what’s going to hurt the most. But, don’t fret. There are several things we can do to help prevent post-sex Hell. Here are some tips (and positions) to try for a more enjoyable sex life.

Before you and your partner just go for it, ease yourselves into it. (AKA Take it slow.) 

We all want to get busy right away (whether that’s because we live in a world that’s fueled by instant gratification, or not, I’ll never know). But when it comes to sex, think about the fun you and your partner could have if you built up that amazing, orgasmic moment.

Start with kissing, but nothing too heavy. (It’ll be an adult version of the game of Cat and Mouse.) Then, as things start to heat up, (which they will) start with external stimulation and/or dry humping. This will help lubricate things naturally.

Speaking of lube, you should probably buy some. (There’s nothing to be ashamed of and the stuff works literal magic!) Most people don’t know this, but the most common reason sex hurts so bad for EndoViduals is vaginal dryness. Not to mention, penetration can pull and stretch endometrial tissue (especially if it’s grown behind the vagina or lower uterus). This is why starting nice and slow is super important.

Best Sex Positions for Endometriosis 

Once you’re ready to go, why not try a new position or two (or three, or four…) Sex positions that put less pressure on the pelvis are going to be your winning positions. But, remember: Everyone is different. So experiment with your partner to see which is best for you!

Woman on Top

According to wellness expert, Melissa M. Turner of Endo Empowered, the “Woman on Top” position is a great way to take control during sex. Plus, it puts you face-to-face with your partner.

Side to Side 

If you don’t want to feel completely in control, try the “Side to Side” position. (Need inspiration? Check out this list of side sex positions from Cosmo.)

“The old fashioned missionary position is the most painful [as] the uterus is tilted at its most posterior aspect,” OB-GYN John C. Petrozza, MD, tells Everyday Health. “Side to side and doggy style positions are a little bit more comfortable because of the angle at which the penis enters.”

Doggy Pillow 

Adding a pillow to the traditional “Doggy Style” position is called “Doggy Pillow” and according to Women’s Health, it’s perfect for women who experience painful intercourse. Just lie on the bed with your stomach down and a few pillows in between the mattress and your stomach/waist area.